In recent years I’ve been travelling a lot around the world teaching people how to improve their online visibility – how to do SEO so to speak – and I’ve noticed that there are always some people out there who don’t like me. In fact, they hate me. Just like this. For no particular reason.
They don’t really know me but they hate me. We meet for the first time and I can already see the hate in their eyes. They follow me online to hate me. They want to be my ‘friends’ on Facebook just to tell me that they hate me (Lol).
And no matter how much good you put into the world, how much stuff you give for free or how much you sacrifice your personal life them people just hate you.
Why do haters hate?
First and foremost these people don’t like you because of jealousy. As crazy as it may sound your failures make them happier than their own success. It doesn’t matter what you do: as long as you are failing they are happy. As long as you are winning they are miserable.
So there are so many questions in my head that I want to ask you:
Honestly, why are you even jealous of my achievements? I’ve never been given anything for free. I’ve always had to work hard for the things that I’ve achieved. I work hard to make my life easy. Your life is already easy – why do you hate me?!
Why are you so jealous to see me on stage when I am there to give you free knowledge and ideas for your business. Do you actually know how much effort I have to put in to prepare for a talk while you are having a good time with your friends at the pub? All you have to do is listen to my (free) business ideas, implement them and make money. And if you don’t like my SEO advice, simply ignore it. It’s not like you paid money for it. Why the hate?!
Why are you madly jealous of my job promotion? I know you think that you’re better suited in for this job so let’s talk about it: I’ve asked for the job so I got it while you were wasting your time telling everybody how great you are. I didn’t stop you from applying for the promotion. You did. Why hate me?!
Is it me or most people that hate you for no particular reason actually don’t like you because they want to be you. But you don’t want to be them.
And let me tell you why you don’t want to be them.
Because you know that the people who go after better jobs, the people who are brave enough to go on stage and talk to hundreds of people, the people who wear their clothes like ‘they just don’t care’ are not as brave as everybody thinks.
They are the people who simply push themselves outside their comfort zone so they can be exactly that: themselves. The person they always wanted to be since they were kids.
Maybe once you were them – the people who always hate somebody – but now you don’t have time for this bullshit as now you are exactly who you are and exactly who you supposed to be.
Which brings me back to the people who hate you for no particular reason. Remember it’s not about you, it’s about them.
It’s their problem, not yours.
Ultimately they are the sufferers. They are the ones trying to make themselves happy by putting others down. But we know that the ‘I am happy because you are down’ system never works. Because they are down not you. They hate themselves really. And they are scared of this self-hatred and project it towards you.
How to deal with haters
First and foremost be yourself. Yes, do use their criticism as a way to evaluate yourself as there are times when certain criticisms are well-founded but do not steer from yourself.
Embrace your you-ness!
Haters want to stop you from accomplishing your goals. Instead, use their negative responses as motivation to succeed. Allow them to motivate you. Use your achievements to silence them. Use your achievements to become more independent thinking. Be proud of what makes you unique.
Embrace it and live the life you want.
P.S. This article was written in response to the online abuse a wonderful person like Craig Campbell is getting online for… well, you’ve guessed it: NO PARTICULAR REASON but being himself.